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Cheating - The Beginning of the End

My boyfriend at the time and I were the perfect couple, and everyone said we were made for each other. I was indescribably happy with him and would have given him everything. And he told me every day how much he loved me. Until one day we moved in together, into a beautiful little apartment. But something was different about him: he was working later than usual and came home reeking of cologne, and when I asked him about it he just said he'd had to work hard at the office and didn't want to smell bad.

Then, completely unsuspecting, I drove into town to go shopping and saw him with another woman. I didn't want to play the jealous girlfriend yet again, so I pushed it aside by telling myself she was just a coworker. But then one day I came home from work much earlier than usual, and as I was unlocking the door I could already hear them...

Getting Over Cheating - A Blessing in Disguise

I rushed straight into the bedroom, and from that moment on I was in another world. I didn't even register that my boyfriend was in our bed with another woman. Nothing mattered to me in that moment; I just wanted to get out of there. I grabbed two or three things, quickly, and ran out of the apartment with tears in my eyes. When I'd pulled myself together a little after 10 minutes, it sank in that my boyfriend had cheated on me. Getting over this betrayal would turn out to be one of the best experiences of my life.

My boyfriend's cheating hit me hard in that moment, because we had agreed that if we ever stopped loving each other, we would tell one another. Now he had broken that promise, and I had no idea how to deal with the situation.

It was the worst and most disgusting feeling on earth, and I had never felt anything like it before. It was a mix of disgust, hatred, grief and pure disappointment. I had no idea how I was ever going to get over this.

The Solution

After catching my boyfriend cheating, it was clear to me that I never wanted to see this person again, but that alone wasn't enough to get over being cheated on. My best friend and I had bought "Das Lexikon der Rache" (a German book of revenge ideas, literally "The Encyclopedia of Revenge") as a joke, and with a series of revenge campaigns I was able to get over the cheating. To make it easier for other women to get over being cheated on, I would absolutely recommend that book. ;) With the revenge acts described in the book, getting over the cheating was easy.